Saturday, April 20, 2013

The Birth Story - part one (the actual birth)

Let’s start with the night before the big day. Having a scheduled c-section and knowing the exact moment your child will be born was both kind of neat and also rather anxiety-provoking. With a normal delivery, you know APPROXIMATELY when your life will change forever, but some mystery still remains. Here there was no mystery, and it made me want to pee my pants. I was SO enjoying my mommy-and-Fraser time, and while I knew I would love baby #2 to the moon and back, I was rather nervous about suddenly becoming a mommy of TWO.

On the evening of the 11th, I was an emotional wreck. If you don’t believe me, just ask my poor husband whose shoulder I wept on several times. I was nervous, scared, excited… all of the above. I also suddenly became concerned about the Down’s marker that had presented itself at my 18-week ultrasound. After my initial panic at week 18, it had become a non-issue to me…  but it became distressing again. Lastly, I had developed a nasty cold which had been robbing me of my sleep. My precious, valuable, pre-life-with-a-newborn sleep.

Since sleep was evading me anyway, I rolled my large body out of bed at 4am to have a long hot shower in an attempt to clear the sickies. I had initially been hoping to recruit Shareen to do my hair and make-up so I could look spectacular (ha!) post-delivery, but I was told no make-up allowed, so I kissed THAT idea good-bye. Instead I whipped up a little side braid, and Mom dropped us off at the hospital by 6:30am.



As we were waiting to be admitted, we realized that my license—which had been tucked in Lowell’s pocket with my health care card—had disappeared. Not that we needed it, but it was still a little disconcerting not knowing its whereabouts. We texted Mom to keep her eyes open for it, and left it at that.

After being admitted, we took the elevator up to day procedures. In the elevator, a 75-year old(ish) man complimented me several times on my braid. Apparently he has a few daughters and can appreciate a good braid. In any case…  totally. made. my. day.


While I was waiting for surgery prep, mom contacted us to let us know that she drove back to the drop-off spot, and was told by some construction workers that they brought my license to security (as it had apparently fallen out of Lowell’s pocket when he removed his phone to take one last picture before the grand hospital entrance). Good then, it was in safe hands. They also told my mom repeatedly to wish me good luck. What sweet construction workers!

Meanwhile, surgery prep included sausage legs (support hose), space boots (also for blood flow purposes), and hospital garb for both Lowell and me.




The nurse asked if I was wearing any jewellery, and as I consciously didn't put any on that morning, I answered, "Nope!" without hesitation. The nurse was like, "What about that nose ring?" Oops. Then, "And how about those wedding rings?" Hehe *blush* OOPS. I guess that was one last thing I could blame on pregnancy brain. The nurse then tied the rings on a string for Lowell to wear around his neck. In the end, Lowell thought it was a special part of the experience. We were separated for a few hours that day, but he felt more connected to me by wearing my wedding rings around his neck. Sweet man, that one!


I was given the following little device to help with my breathing and keep my nasty cough under control...


Lowell is eager to be a Daddy again!


Moments before being wheeled into the operating room, my doctor came to have a chat with me and see if I had any final questions. He also told me that he heard my name being broadcast over the PA several times: “Julie T to security please, Julie T to security”. He apparently looked to the anesthetist and said, amused, “That’s our next cesarean!” haha. I learned afterwards that they continued to announce my name while in the operating room, and finally a nurse called down and got permission to claim my license for me as I was clearly in no state to claim it for myself.

And off I go...


And now for the actual procedure. The anesthetist had assumed that the spinal would be easy and straightforward, but apparently my spine proved him wrong as my “complicated spine” was “surprisingly challenging”. It took 5 pokes and several minutes longer than expected to successfully block sensation from the chest down, and Lowell—who was still waiting outside the OR—was getting rather concerned. All was well, however, and Lowell was soon brought in and the sheet raised.


As things were getting underway, the baby clearly did not want to leave the comfort of my womb as he scooted higher than ever before (like, so high!) and was moving like crazy. The nurse joked that the babe would be delivered through my nose.

The next couple of minutes (or was it seconds?) FLEW by. I felt only weird pressure as the doctor was doing his thing, then was told to be prepared for some pain as the baby was being pushed out. I didn’t even experience discomfort, so I was still waiting for the pain when suddenly I heard my baby crying… and I also began to cry. In a matter of seconds, they brought the baby around to my side of the sheet, and as I caught a glimpse of his swollen scrotum, announced to Lowell with excitement, “It’s a boy!” My tears continued to flow as Lowell and I looked to each other and quietly cheered, “We successfully squelched RP!” (Retinitis Pigmentosa (RP) is the genetic eye condition that is the cause of Lowell’s visual impairment).

More tears.


Then me looking as intently as I could at our baby boy’s facial features in an attempt to assess whether there were any Down’s characteristics. “Does he have Down’s Syndrome?” I asked in a brief panic. The anesthetist immediately rubbed my shoulder and assured me that I did a good job and the baby was beautiful and fine. Phewf. And the tears resumed. Tears of gratitude and joy.

However brief, I loved my wee snuggle with our boy.



During my snuggle, the doc said, "Julie- look up!" and he was holding the cyst over the sheet. It was smaller than expected- about the size of a golf ball- and didn't cause any complications. In fact, they didn't even need to take the entire ovary as planned. I didn't get a picture of the cyst, nor did I get to see it open and oozing with teeth and hair, but in my mind it was, like, awesomely disgusting!

Before being separated, Lowell had a little snuggle with our "beyond perfect" (so said the nurse) babe as well...



As the nursing staff escorted Lowell and the baby to the NICU (as is routine after a cesarean), a nurse asked me if the baby had a name. Yep… Stefan Peter.

Before we were reunited, I spent time in recovery. I was in a state of euphoria as I basked in the beauty of the fact that I had just given birth to our second beautiful, healthy son.


Friday, April 12, 2013

Baby 2.0 is here!


IT'S A BOY!

Stefan Peter T
April 12 @ 9:25am
7lbs 4oz
19 3/4 inches
Everyone is healthy and happy!
Mom is recovering well.
There will most certainly be more to come...


week 39 - exercise ball

Week 39. Exercise ball. Okay, so this MAY be a bit of an exaggeration... but basically, this kid is fully baked.

IT'S D-DAY! See y'all on the other side...

Sunday, April 07, 2013

week 38 - bike pump



38 weeks pregnant, and this babe is ~20ish inches long... like the red part of this bike pump. Whoa. So surreal that there's a fully developed child just hangin out in the ol womb!

The listy-loo:

1. I had two main goals for this past week: nest like a maniac, and get in lots of Fraser time. Well, Fraser caught a nasty gastro bug which meant I got in TONS of the latter, and really not much of the former.

Poor Fraser came down with his bug last Sunday, and after 48 hours of holding nothing down (not even water) and being super lethargic (if he wasn't sleeping or puking, he was snuggling), my Mom and I took him to emergency. Oh boy was I grateful for Nana's support...


After 4 hours at emerg, we left with a wee anti-nausa/vomiting tablet, and he hasn't hurled since!




He finally started gaining his appetite back, and even showed glimpses of his little personality that evening. He was still lethargic and super snuggly, but we knew he was on the up and up when he flashed us his 'squinty eye thing' combined with his fake smile. PRICELESS!


The idea of sick children has always been heartbreaking to me, but when it's your own (however brief), it adds a whole new level of suckiness. I must admit, though, that I did love all the cuddles.

During Fraser's naps, I managed to squeeze in some of my planned nesting (when I, myself, wasn't also sleeping). My initial motivation was the new Tupperware that I scored. I re-did my baking drawers and one thing led to the next, and I ended up re-doing like 70% of the kitchen cupboards/drawers. The only areas I got before and after pictures of, however, were the baking drawers and the spice drawer. Be dazzled.

The before. Oh. my. heavens. I was using old nut containers and dishwasher tablet containers. Plus there were random cans of soup and extra empty containers in there for no reason whatsoever. It was an embarrassingly disastrous shmoz of nastiness is what it was.


AFTER (labels from the coveted label maker to come!) :


Spice drawer before (left) and after (right)...


My Mom gave us that spice drawer organizer when we moved in three years ago. I figured it was about time I brought in the ol hacksaw and had Lowell give it a trim so it fit in the drawer.

I used to be soooo embarrassed when people started opening our kitchen drawers/cupboards, and I cringed at the idea of house sitters judging my house-keeping skills. Now, however, I secretly hope people DO snoop. And I can be all casual and natural and like 'oh ya, no big deal. I'm always this organized!'

Between working full time, being on a billion committees, and preparing our taxes, Lowell- bless his heart- has been helping me nest. Today alone, the dear boy shampooed the carpets and hung my new curtains. What a gem!



2. This week I ducked out to get my classic will-it-be-a-boy-or-will-it-be-a-girl pedi.


Look how much less water I'm retaining than this stage with Fraser (both ew and HAHA)...


Due to some language barrier miscommunication, I also got upsold to a manicure... and a hot pink one at that. I was a tad taken aback at first, but now I sort of love it.


My nesting MAY be affected as I'm now super paranoid about knicking my pretty nails. I find myself constantly placing my fingers on various surfaces admiring their beauty. Hehe... can you tell that I NEVER get manicures? Well that may change.

3. I am often asked how I've been feeling. Well, I have regular third trimester symptoms that come and go with varying intensity, but on the whole I have been pleasantly surprised with how awesome I feel. So yay!

4. Maternity photos! Here are some of our favourite shots (at 35 weeks) from our friend Kevan of Decoro Portrait Photography...


Kev wasn't actually shooting ME here- just testing the lighting. But apparently it's when I pull out my fiercest moves...






Snagged Dr. Papa's stethoscope special for this shot...



Heavens. That was a lot of ME. Thanks Kev. ;)

5. Yes, we have the C-section booked. No, we're not sharing. So don't ask. :)